Tyrese has New Music Ya'll

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Tyrese just announced via his Facebook page (live) that he has new music coming.This Song features V.Bozeman from the hit show(Empire). It will also be free to download at tonight. I don't know about you, but I love free music. He warns the fellas to keep their girlfriends, wives or lady friends away. Especially if the relationship is on the rocks. Ladies he said, it's our new anthem. Can't wait to hear it. In the mean time check out that Black Rose album and his Shame video. 

Before You Walk Out My Life

  
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Being in relationships is hard work; I'm sure we can all agree to that. I'm
not an expert but I've heard, seen and experienced a lot. In some cases I wanted to smack some sense into people for what they put up with. As a little girl I figured out what I wanted and wasn't going to tolerate when I was old enough to date.
I've seen men treat woman like they were a pair of sneakers; one for
every outfit. When a pair got old, they tossed them in the back of the closet. Better yet they used them to play in. We females aren't any better. Some of us are stuck on how cute the guy is. Or on how much money he makes.

I understand the need of being attracted to someone. I will admit that
I am one to say, “Dang he's cute ". Growing up my mother would say, "get
over it. Cuteness will get you caught up, looks aren't everything". Don't get me wrong I agree.
But can we have some form of attraction? Now that I'm older I understand her
more. Females can be blind and naive.
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Here's a scenario: you meet a guy and not even 6 months later you guys
move in together. And you wonder why y'all are having issues x amount of years later. I always tell people younger than me. Male or female don't rush love. In most cases it not even love it's lust, obsession and just plan stupid. Become friends, date, know this person in and out before you commit. Ask questions like," how many people have you been with? “How is your relationship with your parents? Its true when people say, “if he doesn't respect his mother, he won't respect you".
Make sure he or she understands that you have friends, things shouldn't change because your with him. Its all about respect. You both should know and and understand boundaries.
 You may have a past that he or she may or may not know about. If you choose to share it, be prepared. Most may not know how to deal with it. What you've shared with them should never be used to insult or disrespect you later on.


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Don't get into a relationship where he/she is busy trying to dictate
or change you. If you like to hang out with your girls/guys don't
stop. But make sure you give him/her time as well. It's always give
and take in a relationship.Shoot for a 50/50 kind of relationship. If you guys like to go out, take turns paying. The guy should not have to pay for everything. Show him you want to and will maintain your independence. You don't ever want to lose who you are just to please anyone. There's always room for compromise. Have fun, learn and love.
It'll make things easier. Believe, things would run a lot smoother. But love is love, if we want it we have to work through it.

Keep Doing the Things You Did To Get Her, If You Want To Keep Her

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A relationship can wear you the hell down if you let it. In the beginning some fellas are pulling all the stops to get a females attention. They're taking her out, cooking for her, giving her massages and showering their lady with gifts. Men are actually interested in the things females like to talk about.  Or a least it appears that way. We share the same interest, and have the same common goals. Holding hands, cuddling, kissing and foreplay didn't seem forced.  

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Over time when everyone is comfortable things start to change. Once they have us their good, their job is done. They no longer care about going the extra mile to please their woman. So why should they continue work so hard at it? Is that, they believe females aren't going anywhere? Did she do something that caused him to slack or turn him off?  No a days females are moving on when he's no longer interested in the relationship. Who are we to blame?
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She Be Inspired By Her Music: How To Love

She Be Inspired By Her Music: How To Love: The things we do to ourselves because of our past hurts. She grew up watching her parents fight, just about every weekend. A phone call wi...

How To Love

The things we do to ourselves because of our past hurts. 

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She grew up watching her parents fight, just about every weekend. A phone call with him asking her mom where she'd been? Which is how it usually started. She didn't have to hear the questions asked, because of  her mothers response.

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 She'd say something like "Huh what are you talking about?" '' I've been here! "Where are you?'' At that moment She would get dress and get back in bed and wait. The phone calls would continue until he got there. It was on, when she heard the key in the door. Her heart would literally jump out her throat when she heard door open. She would lay there in bed and wait until she heard her mother screaming. At times she would try and break it up and other times she would leave. Imagine running out of the house just to get away from what was about to take place.

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She may as well  have been  invisible. No one came to  look for her nor did she get in trouble when she finally came back. They were so engrossed in their twisted love it sickened the hell out of her. The same man that stood up to take the position of her missing father, abused she and her mom with out a soul knowing.
  
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She  always wore a big bright smile regardless of the challenges and pain she endured behind  those closed doors.
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When you're hurt in every way possible by the people you trust, your heart becomes hardened and your ability to love and trust becomes a lifelong battle. You know the saying, " you don't know what you have until its gone ? " She was gradually losing a battle with love and trust and herself.  She fought love all the the way around. This girl couldn't take constructive criticism. If she thought she was being disrespected she would go on defense mode. She couldn't hear, see or feel the love that was coming her way . She didn't want to trust it let alone accept it. Instead she challenged it. It got to a point where she was going to find herself, by herself. She prayed for a softened heart for years. At times she felt as if God didn't hear her cries.


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She questioned why would she be put in situations she couldn't and didn't know how to get herself out of. She was mad at the world because of her past hurts and could care less about the one who was trying to show her otherwise.


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Fortunately for her God opened her eyes and her heart and she began to learn how to love..........

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We may not get there today, tomorrow or the next day. As long as you fight for what you want an allow yourself to be loved. It won't be so hard to learn that all things is possible. Let go before its too late !

Good Girl

 
Calling all "good girl's"! Do we still exist? I think we've been out numbered by these wanna be basketball, football wives and rapper wives.

We used to be the chase, now we're doing chasing. No longer looking for love but a come up or to gain status. Where are our goals? Do we not believe in our future anymore? What are we teaching our sons and daughters? 
We're telling our young men, it's okay when a thirsty girl approach them. 
Females are half naked and materialistic. Our daughters don't have a chance; because we are leading them in he wrong direction. We are suppose to be their role models. 

What ever happen to being established first? How can you figure out who your are when your busy trying to figure out your role in "your wanna be" relationship. We're no longer dating, but eager to give it up. You just told him you were easy. As a little girl we are taught to secure our purses. Stop giving away all your goods. Once they get in it, they no longer care abut how smart you are or about you having goals.
  

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Guys are out here trying to be ballers or a boss without and education. Still living at home with their mommy. Don't have their own money, and your quick to share everything you have. Body and money. Your not telling them that they have to work hard to have a place in your life. Find a man that's eager to show you he can handle his own, while helping you achieve your goals. Fellas find a lady that have respect for herself and want something for her future. 
Our generation is growing up so fast and in the wrong direction. We need to stop trying to please the person standing next to us, and focus on what we want out of life.